Yesterday I logged onto facebook and noticed I had a message in my inbox. I opened it and it turned out to be one of Groom's distant relatives. She had misspelled half of what all she wrote, but the overall message said something about welcoming me to the family and how she was happy for me/us.
So I know that when you marry someone, it means that you are becoming a part of their family. And it's more so that the woman replaces her current family with the new groom's family than vice versa. Well, I don't know what it was, but that really rubbed me the wrong way. I know that she meant well, but I don't know this person and I don't really want to be a part of HER family. Groom's yes, this random's, no. I know they're not mutually exclusive though. ::sigh::
The worst part about it was that Groom barely recognized her name when I told him about it!
I think the main cause of my feeling the way I feel is because my own parents don't deal with their respective in-laws well. One side is totally overtly disrespectful, while the other is covertly disrespectful. But either way, there is no acceptance. And since that's all I've ever lived with and seen, that's what is being played out now in my life. Damn it all!!! How do normal people deal with this stuff?
I really wish all this crap didn't bother me so much. I mean, this whole, "Welcome to my family." I don't know if my side will say anything like that to Groom. I wish we could just form a whole new family and not deal with the current relatives... but that's not really reality. So yeah.
So I know that when you marry someone, it means that you are becoming a part of their family. And it's more so that the woman replaces her current family with the new groom's family than vice versa. Well, I don't know what it was, but that really rubbed me the wrong way. I know that she meant well, but I don't know this person and I don't really want to be a part of HER family. Groom's yes, this random's, no. I know they're not mutually exclusive though. ::sigh::
The worst part about it was that Groom barely recognized her name when I told him about it!
I think the main cause of my feeling the way I feel is because my own parents don't deal with their respective in-laws well. One side is totally overtly disrespectful, while the other is covertly disrespectful. But either way, there is no acceptance. And since that's all I've ever lived with and seen, that's what is being played out now in my life. Damn it all!!! How do normal people deal with this stuff?
I really wish all this crap didn't bother me so much. I mean, this whole, "Welcome to my family." I don't know if my side will say anything like that to Groom. I wish we could just form a whole new family and not deal with the current relatives... but that's not really reality. So yeah.
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